Co-sleeping, sleeping in their own bed, or both?

Hey guys !

So this is one of the biggest questions I hear about my baby. Is he sleeping in the bed with you or is he sleeping in his own bed? This question beyoooond aggravates me because there is no right or wrong answer, but yet, when asked the question I feel hesitant to explain that my 11-month of son spends the entire night sleeping next to me basically attached to the boob, lmao.

Like many other moms I did hours and hours of research when I was pregnant as to the best ways to have your baby sleep. Is it in bed with you? Is it in their own crib in their own room? Is it in their crib in your room? I was determined to have my son sleeping in his own bed and in his own room. But, like you guessed, that absolutely didn't happen. But still, when i went for that 1 month check-up with my doctor, when she asked if he is sleeping alone I answered with "Yes, of course, he sleeps alone in his bassinet next to my bed" Why did I feel the need to lie? Aren't I his mother? Don't I get to make the decisions when it comes to my child?

Yes, absolutely. My son is MY son, no one else's. But yet, I felt a bit shameful that he slept with me in my bed every night. It wasn't even the fear of rolling over and squishing him, it wasn't the thought of my boyfriend accidentally suffocating him, it was the feeling of failure. The feeling that I have failed to properly get my child to sleep through the nights in his own crib. The feeling that I was being selfish for not wanting to get up every 2-3 hours to feed my hungry little newborn and end up falling asleep in the rocking chair in his nursery.

Many moms feel this sense of failure. But I'm here to tell you that IT'S NOT FAILURE! You didn't fail. You don't need to feel like you made the wrong decision, because you didn't. You're tired, the baby is tired, if it was much easier for you and baby to be in bed together, do it. As long as you are taking all the right safety requirements have your baby in bed with you. A happy and well rested momma is a good momma! A happy and well rested baby is a happier baby! You do YOU. As soon as my son started sleeping with me in my bed I noticed we had better days, I was less irritable, he was less cranky. All together the day went by so much more smoothly. So mommas! YOU do YOU! Don't let anyone tell you how to raise your babes!

From one mom to another.

Thank you for reading! (:

Just-A-Mom